A friend online recently pointed me to The Boys Project. And so I thought I'd share with you guys, yet another wonderful example of why parents of boys should keep them home.
The mission of The Boys Project is:
To help young males develop their capabilities and reach the potential that their families and teachers know they have. The Boys Project seeks to accomplish for young men what the Girls Project so successfully accomplished for young women--- to increase academic skills, to increase college success, and to develop the confidence, drive, and determination to contribute to American society.
OK, forget your horror that such a thing is necessary, for a moment. The education system started as a boy-only institution, then girls were allowed after much fighting, and now boys require a whole support system, because girls are adapting to the system better than the boys are, now. That just makes my head spin. The site goes on to say,
We are losing young boys to a sense of failure that comes from schooling poorly adapted to their needs. We are losing adolescent males to the depression that comes from feeling neither needed nor respected. We are losing young men to life tracks that include neither college nor any other energetic endeavor.
A large, sullen, poorly educated group of men will not keep the nation vital in the twenty-first century. The nation needs the energy, initiative, and ambition of its young men as well as its young women.
Aha! You mean.... the school system isn't meeting the needs of an entire gender? Fascinating.
As a mother of two sons, I suppose the other stats on the site should be horrifying and chilling.
For every 100 girls ages 15 to 17 in correctional facilities, there are 837 boys behind bars (which says more, I think, about the "justice system" than it does about gender issues per se, but anyway...). For every 100 females ages 20 to 24 that commit suicide 624 males of the same age kill themselves. For every 100 girls diagnosed with a learning disability 276 boys are diagnosed with a learning disability. And so on and so on.
And as much as I can admire the concept that we have to band together to save our boys from what school will do to them, banding together to help them cope better with an institution fundamentally unsuited to their basic natures seems, somehow, a fool's errand. But it's nice at least that someone's seeing it.
Laureen is a writer, a professional editor, a scuba instructor, a beginning sailor, a traveler, and an obsessive researcher who's chiefly focused on, and delighted with, her husband Jason and her sons Rowan and Kestrel. She's a lifelong Californian, which lends a very distinctive spin to both her ideas and her politics, and she's discovered, in her peregrinations, that the world is far smaller yet far more fascinating than anyone gives it credit for being. She holds forth her opinions on that in her blog, The ElementalMom.