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June 14, 2006

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Beverley

Thank you for youe story. I just want to add that you do not have to have a special needs child to come up against these troubles. YOur story sound so much like mine. Teacher unwilling to work with or for the good of the student. I find that philosophy appalling in a teacher.

Steph

This is a wonderful post! Honestly, I could have written parts of this myself (and some parts even sound uncannily like my own words). I had a child with "special needs" in the public school system for 4 years. We are now in our 2nd year home schooling. You and your family are blessed! :-)

tracyandrew79@yahoo.co.uk

thats fantastic i agree well done you e thought about doing the same but our daughter was ne of the lucky ones as we found brilliant special needs school hen she was 9 and she stayed there till she was 16.
well done

TeShanna

I cried as I read your story. My son was diagnosed with a speech and language disorder. They call it "receptive/expressive language disorder". I don't believe that they can help him because of the way things are run. No child Left Behind is a joke. So, as parents it is truly up to us. I am strongly considering homeschooling and the more I look into it, the more I think it will work for my son. Thanks for your story!

Anna & Bobby Gee

A friend sent me a link to this homeschool community because of the difficulties we have been facing with my 7 year old daughter in 2nd grade. After 2 years in the Mandarin Immersion program at the public school which has been a highly sought after place to get in we pulled her out because of the high stress of the academic program. At 1st grade she was doing 1-2 hours of homework everyday. Most of the time was her crying and me trying to help her push through. I really want her to learn Mandarin because of not only our heritage but because learning languages is such a useful tool. (I am originally from Canada were I was in French Immersion and speak Mandarin at home with my parents.) Since we live in the Bay Area, I wanted to choose a public school that would not be high stress and had a good school community. I thought I had chosen the correct one but so far it's been a parent's worst nightmare. Basically the school principal, her teacher and the "Resource Specialist" all recommend my daughter repeat 1st grade after the Christmas break. Since she was a 2nd language learner, these kids usually are behind in the language arts and math but catch up after 3rd grade. I know my daughter is bright but unfortunately when she encounters difficulty (last year it was reading) this year it is writing & reading comprehension, she shuts down. Her 1st grade teacher encountered this but with her love and care and with our support at home she was able to start to enjoy reading and now reads Chapter books. I thought by taking her out of the stressful environment of immersion, she could enjoy school and she can learn another language outside of school. We are fortunate where we live we have other options. However, now this new school is telling us due to our daughter's assessments tests from the district that she is below grade level and when we asked if we got her the tutoring she needs and the reinforcement at home we believe she can catch up to grade level. Either the specialist or the principal said "it would be a miracle." I was livid. I felt that instead of supporting us, they rather take the easy route and retain her. I know socially & developmentally she is age appropriate. If she were a late summer or fall birthday or physically smaller I would consider retaining her. Then just the other day when I went to pick up my kindergarten daughter, I also decided to drop off a warmer jacket for daughter in the 2nd grade. I found her in tears because the teacher made her redo a paragraph she had to write. She told me she wanted to go home. It just broke my heart. I am so distressed these past few days. I don't think I have the temperament to work with her. When I help her in homework, and it's challenging or repetitive and she just doesn't want to focus and then starts whining and crying and this just triggers my irritability with her. When I look at my homeschool friends, they all are so patient and loving. I am not like that and my fear is that I will not alleviate the situation but further traumatize her. On top of all that, I don't know how to teach her or what to teach her. I can't do this alone like I see my friends doing. How do you juggle homeschooling one child and the other who is in public school? Are there any moms here that don't have the temperament but still prevail and are successful? I do have anger issues which I am working on with counseling but I just know that adding on the stress of homeschool, I will explode and traumatize my daughter. I just don't know what to do. I would appreciate any words of wisdom and advice. Thank you!
Anna

Anna

A friend sent me a link to this homeschool community because of the difficulties we have been facing with my 7 year old daughter in 2nd grade. After 2 years in the Mandarin Immersion program at the public school which has been a highly sought after place to get in we pulled her out because of the high stress of the academic program. At 1st grade she was doing 1-2 hours of homework everyday. Most of the time was her crying and me trying to console her and help her push through. I really want her to learn Mandarin because of not only our heritage but because learning languages is such a useful tool. (I am originally from Canada where I was in French Immersion and speak Mandarin at home with my parents.) Since we live in the Bay Area, I wanted to choose a public school that would not be high stress and had a good school community. I thought I had chosen the correct one but so far it's been a parent's worst nightmare. Basically the school principal, her teacher and the Resource Specialist all recommend that my daughter repeat 1st grade after the Christmas break. I explained that since she was a 2nd language learner, these kids usually are behind in the language arts and math but catch up after 3rd grade. I know my daughter is bright but unfortunately when she encounters difficulties (last year it was reading) this year it is writing & reading comprehension, she shuts down. Her 1st grade teacher encountered this problem but with her love and care and with our support at home she was able to start to enjoy reading and now reads Chapter books. I thought by taking her out of the stressful environment of immersion, she could enjoy school and she can learn another language outside of school, do the extra curricular activites she enjoys doing and have time to just play. We are fortunate where we live we have other options for Mandarin classes. However, now this new school is telling us, that our daughter is lacking the basic phonic skills to write sentences correctly and with the assessments tests from the district, that she is below grade level. When we asked if we got her the tutoring she needs and the reinforcement at home, we believe she can catch up to grade level. Either the specialist or the principal said "it would be a miracle." I was livid. I felt that instead of supporting us, they rather take the easy route and retain her. I know socially & developmentally she is age appropriate. If she were a late summer or fall birthday or physically smaller I would consider retaining her. Then, just the other day when I went to pick up my kindergarten daughter, I also decided to drop off a warmer jacket for my daughter in the 2nd grade. I found her in tears because the teacher made her redo a paragraph she had to write. She told me she wanted to go home. It just broke my heart. I am so distressed these past few days. I don't have the temperament to work with her. When I help her in homework, and it's challenging or repetitive and she just doesn't want to focus and then starts whining and crying and this just triggers my irritability with her. When I look at my homeschool friends, they all are so patient and loving. I am not like that and my fear is that I will not alleviate the situation but further traumatize her. On top of all that, I don't know how to teach her or what to teach her. I can't do this alone, like I see my friends doing. How do you juggle homeschooling one child and the other who is in public school? Are there any moms here that don't have the temperament but still prevail and are successful? I do have anger issues which I am working on with counseling but I just know that adding on the stress of homeschool, I will explode and further traumatize my daughter. I just don't know what to do. I would appreciate any words of wisdom and advice. Thank you! From a very distressed mom, Anna

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